Re-Emerging as a Mother of Three

The last five weeks since Beau was born have been filled with love, laughter, exploration, frustration, exasperation and many, many lessons.


Jack and Zoe have been troopers as we grow and mold our lives to accommodate this new little being into our family. We’ve done everything we can to keep their lives as “normal” and uninterrupted as possible. They are creatures of habit, so every day begins and ends exactly the same way in terms of routine… right down to the order in which they drink their milk and water before bed. It’s a science that only a fool would dare tinker with.

In an effort to promote their individuality and give them something that is their own, we signed them up for a couple of special activities that they chose for themselves: Tae Kwon Do and Ballet (this gender divide is REAL and completely organic, I am here to tell you).

They know exactly which day is theirs and love every minute of their chosen sport, though I’m not sure if I’m the one that loves it the most in the end.



My greatest concern about having more than one child was if I would be able to give each one enough of our attention. We’re finding ways to make this happen on an individualized basis, but it’s a work in progress.

I generally put Beau in a baby carrier (I’d be lost without the Moby Wrap) and walk with Jack or Zoe to their programs, hand in hand. He is young enough still that he sleeps for hours in the wrap, so while it isn’t exactly individual time with the older kids it’s still really special. We walk through the city talking and sipping hot chocolate, and somehow the chaos of the city dissipates outside of our little bubble. Floating along amongst the honking cars, hustling pedestrians talking on cell phones, delivery guys whizzing by on bikes and impatient cabbies is far less deafening than the screams of the dirty dishes and unwashed laundry in the confines of my apartment.

I leave my home most days just for a morsel of peace. Outside in the city with my children is when I can really focus on them without the impatient nagging of endless, meaningless chores and tasks waiting to be done at home.


(I love this city like crazy.)

Once the bigs are down for the night, I’m able to fawn over and coddle sweet little Beau. He takes a bath nearly every night to calm him before his first big sleep stretch.

It is one of my favorite parts of each day.


Even though this is my third baby, all of these things feel so new again- and I love them even more. Probably because I know first hand how fleeting this baby stage is, I’m cherishing each and every single moment with Beau-even the less-than-pleasant ones.

I’m completely addicted to this baby.



Life as I know it has changed drastically and while it is extraordinarily beautiful in many, many ways, I’m struggling to reclaim even a shred of the corner I had carved out just for myself. It’s like I’ve been crawling around blindfolded trying to find it and while I know it’s there, I can’t feel it or touch it or BE in it for even a moment.

This is life with a new baby, life with three children, life as a full time mother and wife. I love my life. I just miss being able to do the things that make me feel productive and fulfill the creative part of me that I’ve discovered in the last two years.

There are many fantastic things on the horizon for us as a family and for Momma’s Gone City (my creative side). I can’t wait to share them with you. Until then I will be delved deep in my role as mother and wife, learning lessons and living and savoring each moment with all of my babies before they go and grow up too fast.

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  • Beautiful pictures of a beautiful family! Congrats on your latest addition and your obvious ability to enjoy the little things πŸ™‚

  • I thoroughly agree that time outside the home with the children is fresh air for everyone, bodies and minds. Whenever my kids have a day off from school, we call it “School of Mom Field Trip” and we drive off somewhere that is a mystery to them… They are allowed to ask one question every five minutes (“Have we been there before? Is it more than an hour away? Is it North? Is it inside or outside? Are there animals?”) And honestly, the mystery part of it is for my sanity, because if I told them where we were going ahead of time, inevitably one of the five would complain. This way, at the end of the day, I can say, “See? You might not have thought the Museum of Postage Stamps would be fun, but it was, wasn’t it?”

    We usually also go out to lunch (sometimes at nice places, and yes, people do stare). And I always say to them at the end: We can only do this because you are so good and helpful. Sometimes I say it with a bit of an uh-huh look in my eye if they haven’t been especially helpful. The 2yo doesn’t get it yet, but he will.

    Anyway, I love your blog and your gorgeous pictures. You bring back life in New York for me in a way no one else does, and it feels like a thru-the-looking-glass experience of what it might have been like for us if we’d stayed.

  • Jessica…
    I remember when I first ‘met’ you via twitter. You were submitting an entry into a mom blogger reality show (I think that’s what it was). I recall you wrote that you could provide a true and authentic experience of motherhood. As I, and so many others, have read about you’re journey, I couldn’t help but think that’s always what you provide us with your words and pictures. Reading this blog reminded me you have never veered from being ‘authentic’. I can hardly wait as the next chapter unfolds…!

  • I’m a Mother of 3, soon to be 4, and I can relate COMPLETELY to this post! My baby is now 2.5 and I wouldn’t imagine life any different. As I prepare for life with 4, you remind me of how I need to prepare once again for our new addition! My oldest two have really grown to be the best big brother and sister for the baby and life is wonderful (crazy) and I wouldn’t have it any other way! Wonderful site and writing. Ive had writters block since I got pregnant!

  • Love this post! Beautiful.

  • You look amazing! Congratulations on getting everything together so quickly!

    I found your blog not too long ago. I have visited NYC and loved it so much! I feel like I’m living vicariously there through you and your family! Thank you so much!

    Your baby is so adorable! Mine is turning 10 months soon…he definitely lost the newborn look!

  • Lovely post! The pictures were beautiful as are your children. Congratulations on your newest edition to the family. The baby phase goes by in the blink of an eye – so glad you taking time to enjoy every minute of it.

  • So glad to see you evolving quite well into your role as a momma of three, Jessica. My three girls have certainly taught me a thing or two of this great mothering abyss. It’s not easy to parent three very young ones (I know this) but at the end of the day when you can take a moment and revel in the peace of their presence as they sleep, all you can do is sigh a breath of ‘wonder’ and ‘joy’ and hold your heart ‘in love.’ Congrats to you, lovely… πŸ˜‰

    Vanessa πŸ™‚

  • I loved this post – my children were 17 and 12 when my son (now 3) was born – he was completely unexpected and my biggest – most overriding concern – was making sure that my “bigs” lives were not disrupted. In the least. You can imagine how that went. The guilt I felt over imposing such a change in their lives this late in thte game was overwhelming to me, and I’m sure I suffered more than I needed to. Having 2 teens it was harder to carve out that 1-1 time as you can with your little-bigs, but I know that I did the best I could for them and am sure – 3 years later – that they felt it. Three’s a game-changer for sure; thanks for sharing this!

  • Ooh this is so beautiful and true. It flies by while we are trying to find ways to hold on. xo

  • We are in a very similar place- I had our fourth- and last- baby a year ago, and I’m still figuring out how to make it all work. I have a blog post in the works about making it all work as we type! The love is so enormous, so EVERYTHING, that it fuels you when you think you can’t do one more thing. And I’m totally with you on being out of hte house the only time you can really focus on them- I struggle with this.

  • Jessica: You are so right when you said, “Outside in the city with my children is when I can really focus on them without the impatient nagging of endless, meaningless chores and tasks waiting to be done at home.” I didn’t realize it, but its so true. When we are outside with our girls, that’s when we focus on them and not the dishes, dinner or laundry. It’s a good thing we live in this great town, NYC, where we can spend most of our days out of the apt! xo

  • I agree with Elissa, you are completely authentic and a wonderful mother. But I have one question: how will you ever leave NYC? You love it so much.

  • I’m looking at getting Moo into some dance classes or taking guitar lessons. I’m seeing that she needs something that is just about her. The kids are beautiful and growing up so fast it seems. As a mom of two, I know what you mean about finding time to just BE in your own space. Motherhood and being a wife takes a lot, but I hope that you do get some time to rediscover some “me time.”

  • your adventures are some of my favorites to read on this here internet… which makes it sound like your traveling through tanzania each week, but sometimes the life of a mother can feel that way.

    i can only imagine that your mom reads posts like this one and her heart overflows with pride for you. you are truly doing it all.

    (also, i picked up a moby wrap last week b/c of you. i walk jackson to and from school every day and all throughout our little historic district. i anticipate getting MUCHO use out of it.)


  • Wow! Congratulations. lol @ “the gender divide is real”. Beautiful family! Thanks for sharing.

  • Every baby is an adjustment. The third…well it seemed to come easier for me. I hope it does for you.

    He’s absolutely adorable. Just enjoy his tiny newborn self. πŸ™‚

  • What a sweet post. Life is so much better with little ones!bless your heart and your beautiful family. Looking forward to more pos
    ts. Cheers!

  • It IS an adjustment for sure but it looks and sounds like you all are doing pretty well with it. I adore that photo of you all on the bridge together and you kinda make me want to live in NYC with this post… πŸ˜‰

    All of your kids are precious!! (but you know that…)

  • It remainds me so much of me and my family. Also mother of 3. Boy, girl and a baby girl. My oldest one is also going to marital arts lessons, my daughter will also soon start classical dancing and then … there is the baby.
    We live in Brussels, though … Seems NY must be much more fun!
    Great photos, great family and last but not least – I have also dirty laundry and dishes screaming from everywhere. I love your blog.

    All the best!

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